Good work, Dad.

June 17, 2018

Happy belated Father’s Day to all you Dads, and, of course, to all you Moms who support us!  I hope you had a relaxing day with your family.  Maybe you got to watch some World Cup Soccer, or enjoy a little quiet time out mowing the lawn.

I’ve had the fortunate opportunity to spend quite a bit of time with my dad lately, in an unfortunate situation.  It’s given me chance to be up close with his quiet strength, his sense of duty, and his boundless energy in the face of adversity.  Qualities I hope I can live up to.  Qualities I think all men, especially Dads, aspire to.

When we fail to achieve these lofty goals, by our own admission, or possibly the suggestion of others, there are a lot of ways to get back on track.  I hope for you it doesn’t have to be an “unfortunate situation”, or struggle, that reminds you of who you are meant to be, and the strength you have to see yourself and your family through the toughest times.

If you are having a hard time, though, here are a few of my favorite resources to carry you through.

I’ve written about Strong Fathers Strong Daughters dozens of times.  It’ a great book I go back to repeatedly – even more so now that my girls are teens.  I’ve heard from other Dads that the “Strong Sons” version is pretty good too.

You’e probably heard me talk about JBP quite a bit – here is one of the reasons why.  A great modern mix of psychology, philosophy, and some political commentary from both sides.  It’s not your typical “Rules” book.

At age 71, Jimmy has lived one heck of a life.  It’s a fun read.  I gave my Dad a copy years ago.  He just gave it back with his highlights and notes, and now I am rereading it from his perspective.

I’m a huge fan of the movie The Big Lebowski – a cult classic many people haven’t even seen.  It’s irreverent, witty, and quotable.  But the reason I talk about it a lot is that there is quite a bit of good philosophy and life lessons underneath all the cussing.  This book was written almost two decade after the movie came out, and shares a simple, yet insightful conversation between the lead actor, Jeff Bridges, The Dude, and his Zen Master friend.

Irv Yalom is one of my favorite authors for both professional information specific to my work, but also for insight into the human condition.  I have read this book dozens of times, and each time it gives me a little more insight into humanity, and the work of therapy from the perspective of the client and the practitioner.