“Trust is not just some vague quality that grows between two people …it is the specific state that exists when you are both willing to change your own behavior to benefit your partner while on the other hand, distrust is when you don’t have faith in your partner, you take the stance that he or she should change so that you can maximize your own payoffs” (2012, pg.6)

When we focus on the change we ourselves must make, we change the dynamic of the relationship.

By transcending myself to focus on the needs of my partner, I build trust and allow myself the opportunity to discover meaning.